Who the hell do you think you are?
I’m a Neurosparkler. Maybe you are too.
Smart, quirky Gen X women with spiky cognitive profiles have spent decades explaining
who the hell we think we are — only to discover that the question was rhetorical.
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Welcome to the Neurosparkle Revolution
A Neurosparkler is a brilliant and quirky Gen X woman who became highly adapted long before she had diagnostic labels for what made her different.
Now that she's found the lexicon of 'late diagnoses,' she still feels lost — because those words describe deficits, not how she became an unconventional high achiever. She's still expected to apologize for her own stack of strengths, temperament, intellect, quirks, and story. The empathy gap runs both ways, but she carries the whole weight of crossing it.
Neurosparkle began as a self-referent because I could not find the Just Right Words to explain my particular Bird Brain and the framework and system that allowed me to live as an unconventional high achiever. The Bird Brain Framework serves anyone who dreams of designing the lifestyle that fits their particular Stack of STIQS.
The missing piece is not more words to keep explaining what can't be comprehended by those who can't experience it. The missing piece is a framework for Critical Thinking and a system for Recursive Reasoning. And that's what will launch a Neurosparkle Revolution.
The world is not ready for what happens when a bunch of highly adapted neurodiverse people stop apologizing, adapting, and accommodating everyone else at the expense of our own brilliance.
About Me
STIQS, not Symptoms.
Learn to Think Differently about Thinking Differently
Typical neurodivergence language focuses on diagnostic symptoms, traits, idiosyncrasies, and quirks as a means for identifying what is wrong with us.
But for unconventional high achievers, those same descriptors are what make us brilliant when we are allowed to optimize for our own operating system.
STIQS rethinks the words we use to understand what makes Neurosparklers and Nearlynormies different without pathologizing or diagnosing each other.
Strengths
What you do effortlessly that exhausts everyone else. Not your résumé strengths. Your cognitive architecture.
Temperament
The operating temperature of your nervous system. Why some environments are fuel and others are friction.
Intellect
The speed and shape of your thinking. That was never a deficit in attention. It is a difference in processing.
Quirks
The features that were called flaws. The things you apologized for before you had the Just Right Words for what they actually are.
Story
The narrative you’ve been living inside. We don’t just name what you are. We help you see how you got here, and choose where you go next.
Who This Is For
You've spent your whole life
translating yourself
for everyone else.
And they still can't understand you.
You've always known your brain works differently. But you never felt like you fit under the labels used to diagnose you as disordered. Neurosparkle is not another name for neurodivergence. It is a different way of thinking about thinking differently.
You've adapted brilliantly. But being an unconventional high achiever has a cost and you've been paying it in silence.
The dream for a Neurosparkler is being able to use the Just Right Words that say what we mean without having to “over-explain” ourselves every damn time.
That's what the Neurosparkle Newsletter gives you: a room where your native language is already spoken fluently. With concise translation for the Nearlynormies who love us, should they choose to learn more.
The Rabbit Hole Roadmap is a future free webinar for individuals. I will create and deliver it when the waiting list reaches 100. No date is set yet.
And finally prove that not every conundrum is a problem that needs to be solved!
The Neurosparkler
Exponentially capable. Exhausted from translating.
You've always known things before you could explain them. You process the whole picture at once, feel more than you can say, and have been told your whole life that you're too much and not enough, often in the same breath.
By the people who love you most.
You've finally discovered that you are not broken. You were just in the wrong room speaking the right language.
The Nearlynormie
You see the next point in line.
In my lexicon, a Nearlynormie is a proximal processor: someone who sees the next point in line. Loving a Neurosparkler is one possible relationship, not the definition. These Just Right Words offer a way to recognize another perspective.
Understanding isn't required. Recognition is.
Here is How I see It
The Chooser gets to Choose but only from the options that are visible and available to us in the moment.
First establish whether the choice is yours to make. If you are not the Chooser, yes is not an option you can grant.
Everything else is
Living the Dream in the Meantime.
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See what I see as I see it.
Stories and Just Right Words for unconventional minds.
Ideas, stories, and just-right words designed to leave you feeling more seen, heard, understood, and valued.
The Legend of the Bird Brains
See yourself differently.
A grown-up message disguised as a children's story about the birds in your brain and what becomes possible when you choose to stop apologizing for how your brain works.
Discover the Legend
The Bird Brain Sanctuary
Build a life that fits your STIQS
The Bird Brain Sanctuary is an Empire of Epistemic Empathy. Or rathe that is what it will become.Explore the shared work and join the Rabbit Hole Roadmap webinar waiting list.
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Async Musings in no particular order: NeurosparkleGPS. Stories, backstories, lexicon, deep dives, thoughts from a brain that sees the parts and the whole individually and simultaneously.
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